Money Makes the World Go 'Round

So, you say you want to attract more money/abundance? You've already read the books, studied Law Of Attraction, tinkered with visualizations, and even started saying daily affirmations but nothing has really shifted. What's going on? How about checking out what illusion you are giving your power away to?

The minute that you blame the blasted economy, your ex, your divorce settlement, your lack of training/credentials, your (over)qualifications, your current place of employment, your parent's lack of an inheritance for you, your stock portfolio, etc is the moment you restrict the flow of wealth.

Understand that on a quantum level all those things are part of the grand illusion which you created known as "your life". All of it can be changed by you at any time. I repeat, you can change this. If you continue to give your power away to those particular pieces of your collective hallucination by focusing on them, hating them, ignore them on the conscious level but feeling their presence just below the surface, or talking about them often enough, then they'll continue to drain your finances and your energy.

Your 3D consensus reality consists of what your beliefs are, plus your expectations, with a spattering of the fuel of energetic vibrations we call emotions. One of my favorite ways of clearing these money blocks is to first come up with your list of perpetrators. "My life would be fine if ...." is one way to get some insight here. Ask yourself how you feeeeeeel about these different situations and then envision the power that you have been feeding them over the years come back into your body. Supercharge the exercise by tapping the entire time and really feel all that energy come rushing in as it enters your body.

It's all YOU and only you, so bless it as an errant child run amok and welcome it home to grow up so it can fuel your next manifestation- one that serves you better and propels you to the life you really want to be living.

Selfish In Bed?

My partner and I are teaching a workshop this spring entitled Selfishness Is Not A Dirty Word. It's meant to evoke strong feelings and we have had a few eyebrows raised when we've mentioned it to our friends. The idea that we'll be playing around with is that you can't possibly give to others if your own cup isn't overflowing. Sure, you see examples of self-effacing, self-sacrificing all the time but how well are these individuals really doing on physical, emotional, and spiritual level? If the folks that show up in my practice are any indication then the answer is not well.

Want to push the envelope even further with this idea that SELFISH is good for you? Then talk about being selfish in bed! Self-pleasuring is a form of self love. If you have resisted engaging with your body, exploring it thoroughly, and enjoying it by loving it fully yourself then some part of you may very well be holding back when having sex with a partner.

Self-pleasuring isn't the only way to be selfish in bed. What about asking for what you want? Are you reluctant? Are you afraid of what your partner might think of you if you did? Are you scared that you'd really enjoy it and turn into some kind of freak? Are you worried that you will be rejected out and out? All these fears can be addressed with EFT in a simple and elegant fashion giving you complete freedom and unbridled joy in lovemaking.

If you feel bad about "deviant" behaviors what you need to do is explore the origins of these with an experienced practitioner. I have seen everything from internet porno addiction to attraction to minors and they are all related to significant emotional experiences in childhood that once cleared and healed will usually take care of the errant behaviors and compulsions.

So go ahead, give yourself permission and watch as your reality complies in crafting you magical mystical truly human-connected adventures.

Nietzsche and the Entity

I belong to many interesting forums. This message came from a "channeled entity" who posts on one of them. I thought it was rather interesting and thought-provoking although I don't agree 100%.

FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE, according to me, is one of the greatest seers of the Western world; his eyes really go penetrating to the very root of a problem. But because others could not see it -- their eyes were not so penetrating, nor was their intelligence so sharp -- the man lived alone, abandoned, isolated, unloved, unrespected.He says in one of his statements that MAN HAS BEEN TAUGHT BY RELIGIONS TO CONDEMN SEX, TO RENOUNCE SEX.

Religion has not been able to manage it; and man has tried hard but has failed, because it is so deeply rooted in his biology -- it constitutes his whole body. He is born out of sex -- how he can get rid of it except by committing suicide? So man has tried, and religions have helped him to get rid of it -- thousands of disciplines and strategies have been used. The total result is that sex is there, but poisoned.

That word poisoned is a tremendous insight. Religions have not been able to take it away, but they have been certainly successful in poisoning it. And the same is the situation about other things: RELIGIONS ARE CONDEMNING YOUR LIVING IN COMFORT. Now a man who is living in comfort and luxury cannot become a terrorist. Religions have condemned riches, praised poverty. NOW A MAN WHO IS RICH CANNOT BE A TERRORIST. Only the "blessed ones" who are poor can be terrorists -- because they have nothing to lose, and they are boiling up against the whole of society because others have things they don't have. Religions have been trying to console them.But then came COMMUNISM -- a materialist religion -- which provoked people and said to them that, "Your old religions are all opium to the people, and it is not because of your evil actions in this life or in the past lives that you are suffering poverty.

It is because of the evil exploitation of the bourgeois, the super-rich, that you are suffering."The last sentence in Karl Marx's Communist Manifesto is: Proletariats of the whole world unite; you have nothing to lose and you have the whole world to gain. "You are already poor, hungry, naked -- so what you can lose? Your death will not make you more miserable than your life is making you. So why not take a chance and destroy those people who have taken everything away from you. And take those things back, distribute them."What religions have somehow been consoling people with -- although it was wrong and it was cunning and it was a lie, but it kept people in a state of being half asleep -- communism suddenly made them aware of.

That means THIS WORLD IS NOW NEVER GOING TO BE PEACEFUL IF WE DON'T WITHDRAW ALL THE ROTTEN IDEAS THAT HAVE BEEN IMPLANTED IN MAN.The first are the religions -- their values should be removed so that man can smile again, can laugh again, can rejoice again, can be natural again. Second, WHAT COMMUNISM IS SAYING HAS TO BE PUT CLEARLY BEFORE THE PEOPLE -- THAT IT IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY WRONG. You are falling from one trap into another.NO TWO MEN ARE EQUAL; hence the ideal of equality is nonsense. And if you decide to be equal then you have to accept a dictatorship of the proletariat. That means you have to lose your freedom. First the church took away your freedom, then God took away your freedom. NOW COMMUNISM REPLACES YOUR CHURCH, AND IT WILL TAKE AWAY YOUR FREEDOM. And without freedom you cannot rejoice. You live in fear, not in joy.If we can clean the basement of the human mind's unconscious... and that's what my work is... It can be cleaned away.

THE TERRORISM IS NOT IN THE BOMBS IN YOUR HANDS; THE TERRORISM IS IN YOUR UNCONSCIOUS. Otherwise, this state of affairs is going to grow more bitter. And it seems all kinds of blind people have bombs in their hands and are throwing them at random.The third world war would have released people for ten or fifteen years. But the third world war cannot happen because if it happens it won't relieve people, it will only destroy people. So individual violence will increase -- it is increasing. And all your governments and all your religions will go on perpetuating the old strategies without understanding the new situation.

The new situation is that EVERY HUMAN BEING needs to go through therapies, needs to understand his unconscious intentions, NEEDS TO GO THROUGH MEDITATIONS so that he can calm down, become cool -- and look towards the world with a new perspective of silence.

OSHO

One Hot Night

You haven't been on the hot and heavy side of your marriage or partnership and in fact, if truth be told, it's been way too long to be considered "just a dry spell", now what do you do? Take the advice of the authors of Getting to I Do and just relax and engage the senses. Here's how it's done. Set aside 2 hours and turn off all cell phones, beepers, and other distracting electronics. Tell your mate that you will be merely enjoying each other's company. Ask the male energy prominent partner to bring finger food. The female energy prominent partner will set the mood by running and preparing a bath, turn on soft instrumental music, light candles, and gather lotions/oils. IMPORTANT instructions- no talking! First take a bath and enjoy your food then climb out and give each other a massage. At the end of the two hours separate and each take a journal and notice what came up for you.
This last bit is where you can use EFT. Here as some examples of what might come up:
"Even though I felt incredibly vulnerable,....."
"Even though I was sad that my partner seemed more interested in the food and bath than in looking into my eyes, ..."
"Even though I felt angry that he was rushing through my massage,..."

Look for the hidden messages in your irritations and complaints above. Are they reflective of bigger issues in your marriage? In my professional experience it always is! The people that say that their partner was rushed in massaging their body are the ones that say that their partners really pay them too little attention in general. The ones that say things like, "The bath was nice but I really didn't like all that silence and having my partner stare at me" are the ones that feel naked and exposed in relationship and would rather not be really seen for who they are for fear of rejection.

All of this of course can lead to more material to tap on to get the crap out of the way and re-establish intimacy, trust, and finally sexual union.

Female-Male Energy

Do you like to be on top or on the bottom? Are you the one pushing agendas in the relationship or are you the follower? Have you taken care of the finances in your household since the day you got married? All of these questions lead to the exploration of who holds the female and the male energy in a sexual partnership.

Carl Jung was the first in modern history to begin to decipher the dynamics inherent in women (anima) and men (animus) and we haven't stopped trying to get away from being pigeonholed ever since.

Many of today's relationship experts continue to base their work on the what can be called the polarity and how the different energies affect the quality of a loving partnership. David Deida says we can tell which is which by asking ourselves the provocative question I began this entry with. I actually prefer this question posed by Sandra Harmon author of Getting to I Do: would you like to be respected for your ideas or cherished for your feelings? Many modern day women would scoff at the notion of not having both but being both at all times can definitely contribute to marital discord as I have seen in my practice.

The bottom line is that it doesn't really matter who takes out the garbage and who cleans it's all in the way that you feel about it. If you take issue with the roles you are playing then change the audition for a different one. Getting beyond the fear of bringing it up, the fear of rejection if it doesn't suit the other person, the fear that you'll somehow seem powerless if you ask for what you want are all directions to take in your EFT rounds.

"ET, I feel completely unappreciated for what I contribute, I deeply and completely..."

"ET, I feel like my mother when I am the one cooking every meal day and and day out..."

"ET, I feel burdened by being the sole breadwinner, ..."

Clearing the emotional baggage that you carry into the conversations that need to be had around your feeling lack of appreciation can not only allow you to make a better case because you are emotionally neutral but you can actually change your reality.

In my EFT classes I often tell my students that my ex would drive me up the way each and every time he was late. He was time optimistic in the extreme and it drove me crazy. He was even late for our wedding! I began to tap on anger each and every time it happened and lo and behold he stopped being late after 17 years of the same behavior. You see what you expect to see and you most certainly attract what you pay attention to and are in vibrational harmony with.

It's Raining Men!

I am so tired of hearing from women of a certain age that there are no available men. Just as often is the cry that there are men out there but they are all flawed. I have witnessed over and over again the opposite from my clients who work through their fears and limiting beliefs. One way to begin the process of calling in a partner is to work on yourself. The moment my clients heal old wounds and begin to experience self-love men appear as if by magic. Here are some tapping phrases to get you started.
ET the last time I feel in love my heart was broken, I deeply and completely accept myself
ET I carry this limiting belief that there are no men out there, I forgive for buying into it
ET I know that I will only attract losers, I love myself anyway.
Head- I am afraid of falling in love
3rd Eye- Afraid of falling in love
Eyebrow- Because of what happened the last time
Side of eye- I don't want that to happen again
Under eye- So I'll keep myself shut off from experiencing it again
Under nose- Afraid of love
Chin Point- I am afraid of opening my heart
Collarbone- Scared to love again
Under arm- I am open to the possibility that I can release this fear
Head- This time may be different
3rd eye- I won't know until I try
Eyebrow- I might just love myself for awhile
Side of eye- I am open to loving myself fully for a time
Under eye- I choose to focus my attention on falling in love with myself right now
Under nose- And simply seeing what shows up
Chin- I choose to find out what I like about myself
Collarbone- and seeing what shows up
Under arm- When I let go of the need for a partner and fully love myself
Head- I am in alignment with allowing the Universe to provide me with the best possible outcome in relationship and in my entire life.

What's Really Wrong?

According to studies conducted at the University of Michigan there are 7 main reasons for a less than satisfying sex life.
1. Drugs. Things that you are taking to alter your mood can actually cause sexually side effects. Interesting to note here is that sex has been proven to flood the brain with mood altering hormones perhaps making it unnecessary to have take these substances in the first place.
2. Depression. Untreated depression, Dr. Pamela Rockwell says, can lead to many sexual difficulties. “People can experience lack of pleasure, lack of desire and lack of ability to perform,” she says.
3. Alcohol. Yup, the old myth that alcohol can get you in the mood has been put to rest here. Although it can remove inhibitions, alcohol has a direct affect on performance.
4. Stress. “Stress often has effects on our sex lives. When we are consumed with time management, working, raising children and providing for our families, we often don’t leave a lot of time for ourselves,” Rockwell notes. “What happens is the libido goes down, and the ability to accept and give pleasure decreases. People who suffer from unsatisfying sex lives may not even realize that it could be caused by stress.”
5. Pregnancy. Myth I've been able to help my clients dispel. You can turn this one around and make it one of the best sexually connected times in your partnership
6. Menopause. Again, I have experienced shifts in my clients drive and satisfaction when the underlying fears of aging, self-worth, etc are released.
7. Poor body image and self esteem. OH BOY! This is the one that I see consistently. Love your body, love yourself, and the watch out for the fireworks in the bedroom.

Looking over this list I am struck by just how easy it would be for everyone with any of these issues to apply EFT to improve their sex lives. But then again as Gary would say, "Everything is a tappable issue"

Currency

The image of money as currency is one I've always liked; money is a flow of energy nothing more nothing less. In order to access this never ending river of abundance one needs a container. Is your container the size of a teaspoon or a football stadium? If you haven't clearly stated your intended financial goals then your container is a sieve which will scatter all your efforts. Write that list of goals, start your vision board (see a sample of my video vision boards in the video bar section of this blog), dream about the things/containers of your abundance.
Want to supercharge that list and hear where your resistance is? Read your list or look at your vision board while tapping. Make sure you pay attention to the tailenders (limiting self-talk) and turn those into set-up phrases. Here are some examples to get you started.
"Even though I know that I will never be able to buy the house of my dreams, I accept myself with this limiting belief"
"Even though some part of me doesn't believe that I deserve that new car, I am open to the possibility that I do."
"Even though I'm scared that if I made all this money my family would be jealous and hate me, I choose to realize that my wealth might actually help them in some way I can't even begin to fathom."

Manifestation Magic

Have you ever thought of the words you use in the throes of ecstasy? People often use the long a sound as in aaaahhhhhh. According to Wayne Dyer and others it's no secret that this is the same sound as in the names we have given our deities- God, Buddha, Krishna, Shiva, Gaia, etc.
The connection between the sacred masculine and feminine is called procreation for a reason. When you procreate use alchemical properties to change energy into matter and create or manifest a baby or anything else for that matter. It's the whole Di Vinci Code concept of the union of heaven (masculine) and earth (feminine) meeting to form something new.
A dear friend of mine who was associated with the famous P.E.A.R Lab (Princeton’s Electric Propulsion and Plasma Dynamics Laboratory aka quantum physics research team) sited many experiments where a random numbers generator found that women and men are very different energetically. Men are the weaker of the two sexes but have laser like precision while women are much more powerful yet they are considered more scattered in directing their subtle energy. Put the two together and watch out. Those of you that have felt the intensity of an hour long orgasm know what I'm talking about.
What would it be like to have sex mean more than physical pleasure? What if you used it to heal everything from your finances to your migraines? Try it and see by stating the intention of your bedroom romp and letting yourself become a sex magician.

Lower or Higher Worlds

Sex and money are just congealed energy as Joseph Campbell said -I actually think he just said this about money- and to see it that way is to be liberated. Neither sex nor money can make you happy and you can elevate each by how you use them. You can choose to make sex a spiritual expression of love by ridding yourself of all barriers (conscious or otherwise) to really connect with your lover and your higher self. Money can be made holy by the way you choose to spend it. It all comes down to the choices you make after you've sufficiently cleared away the judgements, fears, and self-limiting beliefs.

"Even though I having all these limiting beliefs about money and sex, I deeply and completely love and accept myself"
"Even though I was taught that money and sex are evil, I choose to open myself up to the possibility that they are merely a gauge for my connection to my higher self"
"Even though I can't fully let myself go when it comes to abundance and sexuality, I forgive myself"

Sex and Money

What’s up with the plethora of books on our sexless culture now flooding the market? With titles such as The Sexless Marriage, Beyond Viagra, Rekindling Desire, Reclaiming Intimacy could it be true that this sex in the media saturated generation has no libido? The Emperor really doesn't have any clothes!
Sex, like money, is a clear indicator of where we are vibrationally. As the world’s most perfect tuning forks, human beings are creators of their reality consciously or not. For those who have been deliberately shaping their lives the question then is, ” Why aren't you making more money or having fantastic soul(ful) sex?”
Could it be that you don't believe you deserve to live a life of outrageous pleasure?