Selfish In Bed?

My partner and I are teaching a workshop this spring entitled Selfishness Is Not A Dirty Word. It's meant to evoke strong feelings and we have had a few eyebrows raised when we've mentioned it to our friends. The idea that we'll be playing around with is that you can't possibly give to others if your own cup isn't overflowing. Sure, you see examples of self-effacing, self-sacrificing all the time but how well are these individuals really doing on physical, emotional, and spiritual level? If the folks that show up in my practice are any indication then the answer is not well.

Want to push the envelope even further with this idea that SELFISH is good for you? Then talk about being selfish in bed! Self-pleasuring is a form of self love. If you have resisted engaging with your body, exploring it thoroughly, and enjoying it by loving it fully yourself then some part of you may very well be holding back when having sex with a partner.

Self-pleasuring isn't the only way to be selfish in bed. What about asking for what you want? Are you reluctant? Are you afraid of what your partner might think of you if you did? Are you scared that you'd really enjoy it and turn into some kind of freak? Are you worried that you will be rejected out and out? All these fears can be addressed with EFT in a simple and elegant fashion giving you complete freedom and unbridled joy in lovemaking.

If you feel bad about "deviant" behaviors what you need to do is explore the origins of these with an experienced practitioner. I have seen everything from internet porno addiction to attraction to minors and they are all related to significant emotional experiences in childhood that once cleared and healed will usually take care of the errant behaviors and compulsions.

So go ahead, give yourself permission and watch as your reality complies in crafting you magical mystical truly human-connected adventures.